Saturday, October 4, 2008


Here's a question.

As a parent, is it inevitable that when you are making choices in how to raise your child you will automatically revert to the way you were raised?

I will wait to expand on that until I hear some feedback.


wendy said...

While not a parent ( or atleast not one until may), I'm probably not qualified to answer.

But I'm going to anyway.

I think that it completely depends on your upbringing. If you came from a balanced and happy home, you'd be more inclined to continue that with your child. On the other hand, those who come from homes where they have to experience the evils of the world either 1 repeat these actions or 2 work diligently to provide safety and security in their decisions.

dawn said...

i don't think it's inevitable. i think that it will be the easier choice. if you want to do something different, it's a more conscious decision... you have to pay more attention and might slip into the way you were raised occassionally, but you don't have to always do it that way. did you take family science with me?

Anonymous said...

nature v nurture

as for myself, i was born with with an unerring sense of direction....

did you install the floating compass yet?

are you asking if perhaps some parenting "events" are reflex?

i find myself mimicking my parents lives, even though it may be years before i recognize the mimicry

LaurenFaith said...

I believe it is inevitable. Whether you are looking at the way you were raised to give direction to your children, or you are looking at the way you were raised to not make the same decisions, your parents provided for you a foundation of moral codes and ethics that you either agree with and will pass on to your children, or you don't necessarily agree with and will change it when you are dealing with your own family.

The bottom line, though... is that it's all you know. So you are more inclined to fall back on your parents' teaching methods than trying to reinvent the wheel. Please expand. I'd like to hear your thoughts.

Aidan and Zachary said...

I'm going with yes and no. When I'm correcting behavior
I tend to be a close talker,whether dealing with children at home or at work. While I know from experience that this subjects children to spittle and bad breath, it has been hard to break.

On the no side, I don't use some of the phrases like "You're Crusin for a brusin" and I hope to never expect my childrens pants to stay at or above the nipple level.